Suicide: Problem which our country is facing......

..Just wanted to let you know that a young girl just wrote me a letter and told me that she was ready to end her life, but after going through my article she decided to live. Her life is very hard but I have hope for her. She wrote, "I was on your article, because I almost did it yesterday. Almost. It actually saved me."

I've read lots of articles on suicide, as I've tried to come to terms with exactly what it is that drives an apparently rational human being, sometimes someone who appears to be happy with everything going for them, to take their own life. One thing that I've concluded is that there are many different ways that someone can be driven to suicide.

One thing is for certain; suicidal thoughts are always precipitated by long or short-term periods of emotional or physical turmoil. However, those who attempt to commit suicide do not always do so amidst a big fanfare of showy emotionalism. They don't always mope around crying and sobbing before doing the deed. Sometimes suicidal thoughts come as a small, quiet voice in the dead of the night. Not a huge compulsion to do something terminal, but a quietly insistent suggestion from some destructive and deceptive part of your brain. And other times, suicidal thoughts come as a sudden impulse upon which people act before they have time to realize that they're not being rational. Before they realize that things won't always be as bad as they are now.

Sometimes such thoughts or compulsions come as a result of chemical imbalances in your brain causing depression and irrational thinking. Other times, they come as a result of emotional or physical assaults such as the death of a family member, splitting up with a partner, moving to a new, seemingly hostile town or school. Still other times, suicidal thoughts may come as a result of publicity in the media, from our peers or on the web.

I know it's not politically correct to talk about this, but I'm of the belief that people who've committed suicide, or to abused kids can actually place the thought of suicide so uppermost in people's minds that they might see it as a viable option ahead of getting counseling or talking to someone. My suggestion to you is to stay well clear of these rings. They may have started out as self healing, self-help circles, but rather than elevating the mood of the general community, they eat at everyone's psyche like a cancer, painting a falsely negative picture of the world in which we live. Bad things do happen in the world, it doesn't mean to finish our life, in two minutes.

The highest suicide rate in the world has been reported among young women in South India by a new study. The research is of major importance, according to the World Health Organization, as it brings to light Asia's suicide problem.The average suicide rate for young women aged between 15 to 19 living around Vellore in Tamil Nadu was 148 per 100,000. This compares to just 2.1 suicides per 100,000 in the same group in the UK.

Suicide is not a pretty picture.
It's very easy to create a glamorized view of suicide. You might imagine yourself being found, serene like you fell asleep, a note explaining to your sobbing friends and family how you couldn't take the pain and how sorry you are. You imagine you'll be missed and there'll be tributes, but that's only half the picture when it comes to suicide.

But it isn't like that. Suicide is frequently gory. Violent suicides leave blood and worse to clean up. It's traumatic, even for professionals to deal with. Less violent ones still end up soiling themselves in death. That's right - you'll shit and pee yourself. Sorry to be blunt, but you need to know the full picture.

This is not some scene from Romeo and Juliet: it's life and it's not pretty. Your suicide scene will be forever etched into the memory of those who find you. It's not a nice way to find someone, and it's not a nice way to be found. Your life is too important to throw away.

As for the aftermath, your friends may hold memorials, but many of them will forever be tortured by guilt and by questions. The newspapers will almost certainly not report your death because they have a policy against publicizing suicide. Many families are literally torn apart by the suicide of a child. The psychological reverberations of your death will hit the lives of many people around you like an explosion, and although they may continue to live, some of them may never, ever get over it. In fact, you should face the possibility that your death may affect people so profoundly that others may actually take their own lives as a result. It's not uncommon.

Now I know that a guilt trip is definitely not what you need when you're already feeling low, but you absolutely need to realize that there are repercussions that extend far, far beyond your own life. You also need to realize that there are almost certainly people who love you, right now. And even if that's not true and you've had a rough life, there are many people who care about you - many of them you haven't even met yet. Also,
there are literally hundreds of thousands of people in your country, who can love someone EXACTLY LIKE YOU. You'll probably never meet them all, but you only need to meet one or two to make your life incredible.

Suicide rates differ between boys and girls. Girls think about and attempt suicide about twice as often as boys, and tend to attempt suicide by overdosing on drugs or cutting themselves. Yet boys die by suicide about four times as often girls, perhaps because they tend to use more lethal methods, such as firearms, hanging, or jumping from heights.

And my heart goes out to those who are left behind, because I known that they suffer terribly. Children in particular are left under a cloud of "differentness," all the more terrifying because it can never be fully explained or lifted. The immediate family of the victim is left wide open to tidal waves of guilt, "What did I fail to do that I should have done? What did I fail to do that I should of done? What did I do that was wrong?"

To such grieving persons I can only say, "Lift up your heads and your hearts, surely you did your best. And surely the loved one who is gone did his best, for as long as he could. Remember, now that his battles and torments are over, do not judge him, and do not presume to fathom the mind of God where one is his children is concerned."

Live in Relationship.....

Today, many people have negative aspects on live in relationship, many of us think that it is not good for Indian culture because it gives negative thinking in young generation. No doubt our supreme court too had given her decision on its favor that live in relationship is not an offence, but still many of us take live in relationship as it will effect the mind of young people leading to decay the moral values of country's ethos.

I want to ask question to them who are still against the couples who stay with each other before marriage. I want to ask the society why she treat them like a strange human being, only because they have not married, but i want to tell them that according to hindu mythology Lord Krishna and Radha too stay with each other. According to me first we have to think why couples wants to go in live in relationship... before raising finger on them. and why supreme court too gave her decision on its favor, and to know the reason first we have to go through the history of his or her life. This is very true that today we all want emotional attachment, and when it comes to opposite sex emotional attachment spread its sheet. Because now a days we all are going through loads of mental stress, and in this journey we want to sit for few minutes along with the person whom we think comfort.

Today in our country India, more than 85% of students peruse their school life at boarding, they came to know the right and wrong aspects of life in boarding only, and in this journey the role of affection and love changes. As they are away from parents they think shall I say this point to my parents or not or shall I say that point to my parents or not, and the question comes what they will think, and the answer which mind gives is that No, not to say because they will become tensed. No matter what the point is based about, from this gap starts and we start sharing those points with our friends as well as when it comes to opposite sex we start feeling much more comfortable. After boarding they comes into college life, and the things changes the strictness of boarding just evaporates. There are many students who starts their hostel life from college, and the same thing starts with them too. Friends become care taker. And as i said earlier when we come in contact with opposite sex, we become more comfortable. A stage comes when that the single person becomes the whole world for him or her and finally we give the name of love.

Now the point comes of commitment, because we all know that loving is quite different thing and commitment is quite different. There will be multiple answers for this "WHY" when the both person love each other and have committed too then WHY they want to go in a live in relationship, its better to marry. But as its well said that," Its better to have a live in relation ship rather than having a divorced life." Because there are many cases pending in our courts which shows that after getting married the thing and mutual understanding didn't worked and a happy love life which was before marriage comes on a stage of divorce. So to make sure that they are compatible before going through a life time commitment to each other they opt live in relationship. Because research says that most couple who live together will get married some day, and within five years slightly have of them definitely also do. AS they are in love so they want to spend more time with each other before marriage.

According to study spending two three hours with your love is quite different thing and spending twenty four hours is different, you know the person a lot. Now society raises the question of traditional and customs. As this not suits to Indian society. But history is witness that when ever any change had taken place, first this society comes as a speed breaker, either it is Sati pratha, Child marriage or any thing, because this is fact the generation who revolts against the system faces the problem and the next coming generation grow in a new soil with a new rays of sun light.

The study receive a great deal of publicity because conservative groups use them to try to revive traditional marriage, with no cohabitation and no sex before marriage. Rather than trying to scare people living away from each other when its already so wide spread. Its very important to help couples living together to have strong healthy relationship.......