And you thought your friend knows every beat of your heart! Well, let's say almost.
After Dil Toh Pagal Hai all of us debated about can your friend be your love interest?
And then Kuchh Kuchh hota hai came and revised it all over again with none other
King Khan declaring, my best friend will be my wife
… and the question remains. Talking to a couple of friends the word 'awkward'
popped up again and again.
"You know it would be so awkward looking at him or her that way".
"Are you kidding me, I have never looked at him that way."
"We know each other just too well, we can't get married"
"My mom loves her, ummmm… I am thinking"
And the killer one - "I don't think we can make love."
Well, well all you people out there whatever happened to the promises of being the
best friend to your spouse.
Despite hearing many stories of successful marriages of two 'best friends' this still
remains an elusive question. Valentine's Day is around and now is your decision
making time. We try to reveal few pros and cons:
Why is it a good idea?
Thought it out - If you have considered the thought of proposing your best friend,
you have already seen him or her in that mould. Thought of getting up with them
every morning and going to sleep looking at the same face. Point is you have already
internalized the idea so go for it.
Known devil - Okay let me be honest, I am borrowing this thought from a friend. A
known devil is better than the unknown. All of us who still have not committed
because of the fear of the unknown - what would they be like in bed? Will I like
kissing him? Am I attracted to him? Will she turn into a nag immediately after we say
our vows? Etc etc. These questions are valid even if you get married to a stranger, you
never know how they kiss, till you kiss them. Does that mean you would go on a
kissing spree? You know her sensitivities, his tantrums, religious values, spending
habits, his mom's attitude, his friends, her colleagues - you won't know any of this if
you marry a stranger. So, go ahead take the plunge!
I know you and you know me - He or she knows how many men you have seen and
she knows the list of your love interests, these and many more, which come naturally
to friends, including shopping with each other. So, unless you are really adventurous
kinds who gets a kick only being around strangers, it be nice to have a person
around who KNOWs you so well. And apart from all the angelic stuff, saves you the
trouble of explaining a stranger-to-be-husband/wife about your past relationships.
Don't want to be with my mirror - Okay so he or she knows you a bit too well. You
want to be with a person who knows everything about you. I would rather be with
someone who you can explore and love fresh as a lover and not a
stranger-turned-lover. Great, keep looking for that elusive stranger.
Sex? - Having sex with a person who knows you is always make you comfort.Taking
off from the weirdest one, you can't imagine being in bed with a stranger.
Transition from a buddy to a seducer/seductress, may not be a very easy thing
to see. What if you burst out laughing while in the act? I understand. This is
matter
of deep thought. Do keep thinking!
Serial marriage - You are a social butterfly and you have many friends who fall in this
category, will you get married to all of them? Not every 'good friend' can be turned
into a spouse. Nice people are just nice, whether as a friend or a spouse, so why risk
losing a friend.
Well, well, well… that's enough of strategy. In the matter of marriage I would still
trust the judgment of heart over mind. If your heart can imagine a life with him or
her
and both your bank balances put together will create a good life - I would say go for it.
Your heart will guide you through from their drawing room to kitchen to bed.
