HAPPY VALENTINE DAY FRIENDS.... JUST GO THROUGH MY BLOG. FRIENDS, CAN BE GOOD SPOUSE?

And you thought your friend knows every beat of your heart! Well, let's say almost.

After Dil Toh Pagal Hai all of us debated about can your friend be your love interest?

And then Kuchh Kuchh hota hai came and revised it all over again with none other

King Khan declaring, my best friend will be my wife

… and the question remains. Talking to a couple of friends the word 'awkward'

popped up again and again.

"You know it would be so awkward looking at him or her that way".

"Are you kidding me, I have never looked at him that way."

"We know each other just too well, we can't get married"

"My mom loves her, ummmm… I am thinking"

And the killer one - "I don't think we can make love."

Well, well all you people out there whatever happened to the promises of being the

best friend to your spouse.

Despite hearing many stories of successful marriages of two 'best friends' this still

remains an elusive question. Valentine's Day is around and now is your decision

making time. We try to reveal few pros and cons:

Why is it a good idea?

Thought it out - If you have considered the thought of proposing your best friend,

you have already seen him or her in that mould. Thought of getting up with them

every morning and going to sleep looking at the same face. Point is you have already

internalized the idea so go for it.

Known devil - Okay let me be honest, I am borrowing this thought from a friend. A

known devil is better than the unknown. All of us who still have not committed

because of the fear of the unknown - what would they be like in bed? Will I like

kissing him? Am I attracted to him? Will she turn into a nag immediately after we say

our vows? Etc etc. These questions are valid even if you get married to a stranger, you

never know how they kiss, till you kiss them. Does that mean you would go on a

kissing spree? You know her sensitivities, his tantrums, religious values, spending

habits, his mom's attitude, his friends, her colleagues - you won't know any of this if

you marry a stranger. So, go ahead take the plunge!

I know you and you know me - He or she knows how many men you have seen and

she knows the list of your love interests, these and many more, which come naturally

to friends, including shopping with each other. So, unless you are really adventurous

kinds who gets a kick only being around strangers, it be nice to have a person

around who KNOWs you so well. And apart from all the angelic stuff, saves you the

trouble of explaining a stranger-to-be-husband/wife about your past relationships.

Don't want to be with my mirror - Okay so he or she knows you a bit too well. You

want to be with a person who knows everything about you. I would rather be with

someone who you can explore and love fresh as a lover and not a

stranger-turned-lover. Great, keep looking for that elusive stranger.

Sex? - Having sex with a person who knows you is always make you comfort.Taking

off from the weirdest one, you can't imagine being in bed with a stranger.

Transition from a buddy to a seducer/seductress, may not be a very easy thing

to see. What if you burst out laughing while in the act? I understand. This is

matter

of deep thought. Do keep thinking!

Serial marriage - You are a social butterfly and you have many friends who fall in this

category, will you get married to all of them? Not every 'good friend' can be turned

into a spouse. Nice people are just nice, whether as a friend or a spouse, so why risk

losing a friend.

Well, well, well… that's enough of strategy. In the matter of marriage I would still

trust the judgment of heart over mind. If your heart can imagine a life with him or

her

and both your bank balances put together will create a good life - I would say go for it.

Your heart will guide you through from their drawing room to kitchen to bed.